Over the years I have had a number of people consider themselves to be spiritual parents to me and it has caused my life a serious amount of harm. There is a puzzlement in me as to why they do this, ego perhaps? But if the fruit that the “child” manifests has evidence of coming directly from heaven and is indeed greater than theirs why are they playing such a game for? Also given that I am over 50 and have no interest in having my life dictated too by those who are immature spiritually. It is by the love, joy, peace etc that a persons authority is shown, not by anything else, pieces of paper stamped “pastor” or “elder” by other people is not a sign that you are actually capable or even called to those positions, in fact I know many religious leaders who should actually be Accountants, Bankers, Lawyers, Hair Dressers, Motivational Speakers, Car Salesmen, Business leaders – who have taken on positions in church leadership or as the Pastor or Minister. They are in positions that God has not called them too and people trust them to give counsel directly from the will of heaven over their lives, not man derived good ideas from someone who is not qualified in relationship to Jesus Christ to give. I know you can pull a million verses out of the bible that says you have the right and responsibility to guide and counsel those that are in your parishes or churches but it is always via conversation not coercion or manipulation and control like withholding finances that are due to another in order to manipulate them into a life you think will benefit the world and bring about the kingdom of heaven to the earth. Prayers that are prayed to get someone to do your will for their life are a form of witchcraft, seriously there is nothing in the manner of a controlling prayer that is any different to witchcraft, they use formulas, you use misquoted bible verses like John 17:21 “that they may all be one…” when the oneness that is described is only through our connection to heaven rather than a soul tie sideways connection directly to each other here on earth, neither you or I are yet perfected since we still live on earth and if I am in sin and you also ( Romans 3:23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God) then when you take parental rights over those that are Christian you put upon them your sins also for He says in Exodus 34:7 visiting the iniquity of fathers on the children and on the grandchildren to the third and fourth generations. So what if you are in a sin like pornography and have not received deliverance for it and you claim rights of a parent over say a single womans son, your sin has opened up that child to being tempted in the area of pornography. I have seen this happen all the time, why do you think it says in Matthew 23:9 Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. You really want the responsibility of bringing others into your sins? As you over step the boundaries of Christian brotherly or sisterly responsibility? Come tell me you are perfect and we will see what the Father says and if He agrees with you then I might listen to some of your fantasies that you call godly counsel and direction from a “parent”. I have seen one deceived person speak from a pulpit and the snake that is wrapped around his spine with its head in the spirit matching the place where the mans head is anoint everyone he was speaking over with that same deception. Welcome to spiritual truth 101. Another speaks “crap” laced with bible verses and that is what fills his listeners. You really want to call yourselves parents? I do not, I never will call myself “mother” though others have done such a thing to me, I cover you with the blood of the Lamb that my imperfections will not be transferred in such a demonic way. When Paul said to be like him I am sure he was meaning to have the same faith levels, not to become him, for we are all to become fully who we are as individuals in Christ Jesus, unique one of a kind representatives of His down here on earth.
Okay, now what is shared above is truth, the two edged sword mentioned in the bible has this as one of its edges, the other edge is grace.
For the grace edge, change your patterns please, Jesus has given you everything that is needed to begin changing your mindsets that you will no longer destroy the lives of those who are already Gods children, not yours. Isaiah 54:13 And all your [spiritual] children shall be disciples [taught by the Lord and obedient to His will], and great shall be the peace and undisturbed composure of your children. So, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you, even release people who are not your children, who are not part of your denomination even. May the Grace of God be upon you to release you from all false responsibility that has been placed upon you by misapplied bible verses, false words from false gods (I assure you there are a large number of Christians moving in the practice of Astral travelling speaking their ideas into the spirit realm and into the ears of those lacking discernment), the hearts desires of others that seem so good and right and have garnered authority based on it “feeling” right to the largest number of people even though it repudiates what the person has heard from God for themselves. In Jesus Name hold your hands before you and in your imagination gather in your cupped hands all and every word that have been spoken over you and words you have spoken over others, whether before you or in secret, whether a thought or a verbal word or a conversation or from a Sermon in a church. Depending on your doctrines, you can either ask the Father for His fire to fall upon them burning the dross off to purify them to righteousness so that only the good and godly remains, or you can lay them all down at the Cross and cover them with the blood of the Lamb that anything that is missing the mark of Gods perfection in these words would be removed and only the goodness of the righteous words remain, or you can ask the Father to gift to your mind bible verses that would wash you clean of any derogatory words as you are washed in His Word. My thought is that a combination of these would be best for all the varying manners in which we interact with each other (emotional, superior, authoritarian, self righteous, false knowledge etc), and some will only come out by prayer and fasting. Pray about the manner God would like you to use His Grace to overcome with for the ways are as many as there are individuals on the earth. Revelation 12:11 And they have overcome (conquered) him by means of the blood of the Lamb and by the utterance of their testimony, for they did not love and cling to life even when faced with death [holding their lives cheap till they had to die for their witnessing].
Now, the blade itself is Love, so as a Christian I should speak the Truth in Love and add the overcoming Grace of God upon what I see are totally dysfunctional circumstances and doctrines.
For me personally, I have no interest in a public ministry, I was shown by the Father that I was to share our workplace chapel morning dedications of the day to God on Youtube or with Oprah for 6 days a week, then these people go to their own churches on Sunday. This is to limit the number of people who would try and join with us since it is for a work place and not a church. Other ‘parents’ vision and dream and false destiny based in the doctrines that mega churches are in fact a good godly thing, would desire that I lead one of those. There is nothing of God in that false vision created for mans glory, to me a church should be limited to about 120 people so that all the gifts of God can be used within that environment, and all the positions – Apostle, Prophet, Evangelist, Teacher, Pastor are free to fulfil their function as well. The larger numbers of people should be for events and church planting should take over the idea of church growth. One church I went to allowed a woman of that congregation to begin her own church once her home group exceeded 100 people, this is wisdom to me. Blessings and grace to you and please do not use this material as though it is yours, the curse on doing so remains.